inner child healing - Dream Life Lounge

You made it here. I am so proud of you and I hope you are just as proud of yourself for doing this AH-MAZING work on this planet right now!

This is a completely self-paced program though it’s ideal to do it in a 10-day-frame.

You have three modules created with an intent to cover each for 3 days. There is a video for each module with audio meditation + journaling + tasks.

Make sure, you also check out the Bonus Resources at the end for some bonus goodies that will help and support you through the journey.

If anytime you need assistance or extra personal support, feel free to drop an email to me at info@dreamlifelounge.com. It’s okay if you drop a DM too on IG @dreamlifelounge, will be more than happy to support you and hold you accountable.

Sending you so much love on this journey,

Stay patient

Stay loving to your self.

With love,

Shivani

MODULE 01:RECONNECTING TO YOUR INNER CHILD

Welcome!

In this module, we will be meeting our inner child for the first time. This is about seeing him or her for who they are.. This is acknowledging and accepting their presence. For the longest time, we have numbed them down. We have denied their existence. Imagine being with someone and them being oblivious to your presence? Ouch! Yes that’s pretty much how our inner child feels.

In this module, we will be reaching out to them after an eternity of silence and ignorance. Please remember to be kind and gentle as you do this. They might have been hurt for a very long time so your gesture can be met in very different ways. This is also about accepting them for who they are – imperfect, vulnerable, hurt or angry or shy and reserved maybe.

Here we are establishing a connection with our inner child. We are seeing them and connecting to them. See this as you reaching out to a child in a park. Maintain that softness and space as you connect for this first time. Over the course, you will find your connection deepening more and more as you share more emotional intimacy and loving moments. For now, your job is to make them feel safe to see you, connect with you and open up to you. You can create a physical safe space for yourself where you would do this work. You could grab yourself some comforting food or a blanket – just anything which gives you a sense of safety.

Anytime you feel triggering emotions coming to the surface, anchor into this safety. You are not your inner child, you are embodying the role of your inner parent. So, see how can you make yourself feel safe in the moments of trigger or rage or vulnerability? Saying “I am safe with myself” or “You are safe with me” however you would want to use those words, will really help you if the process feels intimidating at any time.

Go ahead and tune into your visualization meditation where you re-connect to your inner child. Let it playout for the next three days continuously. Post the meditation, sit down with your journal and use the prompts for each day to let the reflections of the meditation flow. . . .

Task: Take a Picture of your childhood and say – I ACCEPT YOU. I SEE YOU. YOU ARE SAFE.

Journal Prompts

Journal Prompts for DAY 01.

What does your inner child look like?
How did he/she feel? Don’t judge, just observe with love and compassion.
How was it connecting with him/her? How do you feel seeing them today?

Journal Prompts for DAY 02.

What new things have you noticed about your inner child today?
How was his/her behavior to you today? Was he/she more open or was she a little distant?
Did you talk? What did they tell you?
Is there anything you wanted to say to them today? Feel free to write it down here knowing that you can give this letter to them tomorrow when you meet them once more.

Journal Prompts for DAY 03.

Did you give him/her the letter today?
What did they say or do or give you?
Do you feel a little closer to your inner child? Do you think they feel safer with you now or perhaps, trust you a little more than DAY 01? Where is your connection right now?

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Yay! You hit an amazeball milestone today! Where are you gonna treat your inner child today?

module02: REPARENTING YOUR INNER CHILD

Welcome!

In this module, we will be re-parenting our inner child. In the last video, I said that you are not embodying the role of your inner child, but embodying the role of your inner parent. This inner parent will now give your inner child the love, safety, comfort, presence and intimacy that perhaps your real-life parents couldn’t for what-so-ever circumstances they had or the emotional availability or healing they had. As i say this, we recognize that one of the biggest keys of this module is also going to be forgiveness. As kids, we have great expectations from our parents. Because our parents are our sole providers, we tend to worship them and put them on a dangerous pedestal of perfectionism. However, they are human beings and their souls are on their own journeys of evolution and healing. Ofcourse, as a child, you don’t understand this and when your needs are not met, you tend to either blame your parents, or blame yourself. In either case, forgiveness is needed so that your inner child could release and be released.

Once you have forgiven, you can then go on to play the role of your inner parent and start re-parenting yourself, ie. your inner child. (check out bonus meditation, you can do this today).

Our subconscious minds are formed from the age 0-7. The voices we hear, which are mostly that of our parents, form this subconscious. This subconscious mind is responsible for the way we think, behave and even manifest things in our lives. This forms our habits and patterns. If you want to change your life, you’d want to change your habits and patterns which have created the reality you have so far. To change these life long habits and patterns, you would want to change the inner dialogues you have going on within you from your childhood experience from any parent figure in your life.

What your subconscious believes is what it attracts from the outside. So for example, if your parent/teacher scolded you for not performing well in your studies, you formed the belief that your academic performance is what makes you loveable – which was obviously not true! But your inner child really believed that and have been working with that limiting belief system and trying to prove that they are worthy of love by working for it. This can look like, pushing away love because you feel you are not good enough to be love-able.

This is just one example. There could be so many different belief systems we might have been running on autopilot dictating our lives. Our wounds are not our responsibility, but our healing is. Thank you so much for choosing your healing. In the course of the next three days, we would be learning how to re-parent ourselves and shift these inner dialogues so that our inner child can feel safe, motivated, loved and inspired rather than pushing negative and toxic patterns over and over again in all areas of our life.

Download your Forgiveness meditation for this module and tune into it for the next three days to cultivate forgiveness, and compassion and release the stuck energy.

Task: for the next three days identify the critical voice in your head which sounds like the voice of a parent. Note it down on your worksheet below. For example- when you mess up at work and your instant reaction is,” _(name) you are so silly! You always make mistakes!” that’s your inner parent being critical. Observe it without judgments, note it down. Tell yourself- “I see you. I love and accept you anyway.”

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At the end of each day, use the template in your download and create a new loving voice. Practice this voice and on Day 03, journal your observations and take the required actions to make it your permanent voice.

One way is to put the templates up somewhere where you can see them regularly so that you can make them your permanent voice. You are changing and reprogramming your mindset through these activities.

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Wohoo, you did it!

How are you gonna celebrate this milestone today love?

module 03: NURTURING YOUR INNER CHILD

Welcome to Module 03.

First of all, a big congratulations to you for coming so far! I am proud of you and I am sure so is your inner child. In this module, we are talking about nurturing. What sustains any relationship is the process of nurturing. Now that you have connected with your inner child and courageously brought light to the shadows, now is the time to deepen this bond. Healing takes time and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. It’s with daily commitment and practice that we can tend to our wounded inner child and make him/her feel safe and free to play and have fun again. Your inner child brings more emotional presence and intimacy in your work, relationships, personal growth and wellness. You can only experience as much freedom in these areas, as much as you give it to your inner child. This is why, it is important to continue this relationship building and deepening with your inner child and not abandon his/her once more. Meet him/her in the park or on the yoga mat or maybe on the canvas or dance studio. This is the phase where we ask our inner child what makes her bloom? What makes her happy? What does she crave? What can you, as an inner parent, give to your inner child? Is it more presence and conversation or is it crayons and physical time and space to move? Feel free to explore and allow her to answer. There is no one way to nurture a relationship or bond, so allow yourself to deepen this connection in your own way. In the moments of trigger, reach out to your inner child, hug her and tell her you are present and she is safe. This work is not one-time. It stays with you.

Download and play the Inner Child Affirmation track every day to soothe and comfort you as you go through this self-nurturing process.

Task: For the next three days, pick an activity that calls you the most or something that you used to do as a child – it could be a sport, painting, dancing, writing, singing simply anything which brings out the child in you. Engage with this activity fully. Surrender to it. And as that happens, let yourself also be triggered by it. It’s really okay. Know that, you have a safe space to process it in your journal as the day ends.

journal prompts

Use the following journal prompts every single day after your fun activity. It might be tempting to skip it because your brain might say, it’s just the same – but best believe, there’s magic in doing something repeatedly. You will be surprised with how your response differs each time or evolves slowly.

Journal prompts for Day 01, 02 and 03

What inhibitions you had doing these activities?
How did your inner child feel doing this?
Are you going to show up tomorrow as well?
How did this expression feel today?
Did it trigger something?
Did it inspire something?
What did you express today through this activity?
Five adjectives to describe how you feel today
Do you wanna do this more often?

On the last day, ask yourself –

Are you willing to make space and time for your inner child?

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Make it real:

Create a menu of fun activities that inspire your inner child (it can be movement-based like yoga or dancing, or simply relaxing like writing or reading). (DOWNLOAD, PRINT AND FILL IN THE MENU PUTTING IT UP IN AN ACCESSIBLE SPACE).
Open your Google Calendar and make real-time space for your play activities in a week. Reserve a space every single week marking “NURTURING SPACE”. Give it an hour or two or whatever feels good to you. Put it on repeat for the next 1 or 3 or 6 months.
When the day arrives, pick up an activity from your menu which calls you and moves your heart with joy.